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December 29, 2018 by Sally K Norton

We’re on a Leading Edge

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Oxalate Awareness is missing from the menu of options for healthy living. That is because other people have decided what matters and what doesn’t. What if they based their decisions on wrong and very incomplete information? Can you find peace and confidence despite the experts’ ignorance?

Painful Searching for Missing Answers

My clients and followers care about their health. They’ve read, they’ve done research, they’ve made admirable efforts to do the right thing when it comes to their food, their fitness, and so on. Despite all this intention, attention, willingness and effort, they still don’t feel good. Something is bothering their organs and cells. In one form or another, irritating problems don’t seem to get better no matter what they do. Worse still is that the continuing slide in their well-being can be downright scary or demoralizing.

Increasing desperation keeps them hunting for options and answers. They suffer, they try, they seek, they apply the given remedies, they still suffer. They seek, they try—again and again. People around them question their sanity. Friends start to wonder if these people are malingering, or fanatical, or just plain weak in the face of normal aches, pains, and fatigue. Some loved ones watch them suffer in utter helplessness and confusion.

But like me, my tenacious seekers know they are not meant to suffer so. This conviction keeps them searching for real relief, for that obscured path to a more livable existence. By grace, thousands of us have found the oh-so-elusive solution. We’ve learned how to avoid oxalate. We have started down the long path of supporting our bodies’ efforts to lower our oxalate burden and rebuild our health.

In the wake of some simple diet changes, miracles commence. We’re dumbfounded. So many of the foods we now know to avoid are still being heralded as good for you, and not acknowledged as what we know them to be: the source of pain, bad sleep, bad skin, fatigue, digestive problems, and urinary tract and kidney problems.

Missing Option

Why was this healthy eating option missing for us despite all our reading and research? Why is oxalate awareness absent from the marketplace of ideas and from the curiosity of researchers? Why are doctors, nutritionists, and health coaches ignoring this very real problem? “Why” may be a futile question to attempt to answer. There are many forces that keep the oxalate problem hidden. Exploring them all could fill a book (and might someday).

The fact is that these “experts” (for example: text book authors, university professors, and clinicians) are comfortable with their own ignorance of the science on this subject and happy to discount the experience of those who suffer from very real (and serious) oxalate-induced health problems. They are sure of themselves based on their own social position and cultural forces that valorize their attitudes. Their opinions glitter with a disingenuous veneer of rationality. Shrouded by social prestige, their dismissals of real-world observations and lived experience hold sway. They expect us all to agree with what they believe, because, well, they are the experts. Too often we cooperate.

They are willing to “think” for us and decree what is possible without checking their facts, and with a tenacious resistance to considering phenomena that suggest that some of what they think they know might be wrong. Experts who know nothing about oxalate (and its effects on the body) are the norm, not the exception. That means we’re on our own.

On a Leading Edge

We oxalate sufferers have to become leaders in our own healing journey. Out here on the oxalate-aware path we’re on a new frontier. We are pioneers, willing or not. That is disturbing for many of us because it is a life and death matter. We expect to get some validation or some form of help and understanding from health professionals. All that is in short supply. And that is the reason I became an oxalate researcher and educator.

What we have discovered out here on the frontier is that a toxic substance, when consumed on a regular basis, has toxic effects on the body. Insidious, long-lasting toxic effects. Accumulation of the toxin and the resulting cumulative damage causes a huge variety of real and debilitating problems. Why would anyone deny this reality? Why do experts show no interest in the thousands of people who have benefited by lowering their oxalate intake?

Alas, the experts in white coats, the authors, the sellers of nutbars and smoothies, and the plant-based diet demagogues don’t care if you are right. They will deny your reality, despite its logic and simplicity (and scientific backing), because they have concluded that what you are experiencing simply can’t be true.

An Inconvenient Truth

Oxalate (the toxin) is made by plants and occurs in familiar, profitable, and tasty foods. These “advantages” are enough to cancel simple logic and close down the discussion, end exploration, and stifle understanding. The implications (for our diets and our culture) are too painful to face.

Another issue is that oxalate is tricky to study. Although pathologists have repeatedly called out oxalate as trouble, it manages to evade condemnation by researchers and academics. The science is incomplete; our understanding of biology is extremely limited. Current science still tends to treat the biological systems that manage whole-body health too much like a simple machine, rather than a complex actor making use of many interacting systems to maintain its well-being. Our simplistic thinking has made it convenient to dismiss concerns about oxalate before we ever developed the tools to identify its subtle and sneaky effects so we can catch it in the act of ruining our health.

Know What you Know

If you are benefiting from avoiding oxalate, let what is true be true. Celebrate that! Your ultimate success depends on you staying the course. Be glad that you found the missing answer and that your path to health is finally clear.

Please know in your heart that what you have discovered about oxalates’ effects on your health is real and really serious. The most precious thing you can possess is your health and a peaceful heart. You can have both, even in a world that does not yet “get it” when it comes to oxalate.

Remember

You deserve to be informed, even when your doctor is not. Although it has its appeal, you don’t need your doctor to think for you or to validate your experience.

May you move forward in 2019 with hope and transformative healing. May you share the good news with others! May you ring in the New Year with confidence and a peace-filled heart!

Happy New Year!

December 21, 2017 by Sally K Norton

Winter Solstice and Imperceptible Change

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Finding Your Own Brighter Days Ahead During the Yuletide

Today, in the Northern Hemisphere, our winter solstice sun appears at its lowest point in the sky. Many traditions and cultures honor these short days and long nights as a sacred and special time.

This time of year is associated with light – electric string lights, the burning yule log, and candles. Hanukkah in the Jewish tradition is the Festival of Lights, which just completed the 8 days of ritual illumination of the menorah. There’s the advent wreath of the Christian faith (weekly lighting of candles) and the all-night bonfire of the Yule log. The lights are reminders of our inner light, an affirmation of our higher and better selves, and hope for brighter days ahead – as we move through our darkest days.

Winter Festivities – Coping with Darkness and Chill

The trimmings, the sweets, the parties and the hoopla of the season are all intended to help carry us through this dark and cold time of the year. Without our social connections and the promise of brighter days ahead, the winter blues might be overwhelming. Parties and holiday gatherings remind us that we’re all in it together. And it can, indeed, be good medicine because we humans long for a sense of belonging, to feel that deep bond of family and community, to be part of a “tribe”.

Of course, we get distracted by all the “wanting”—feelings of lack, and a focus on stuff, or even our longings for perfect health.  And we easily miss the central point:  to love one another, to offer companionship and reinforce our connections through the trimmings and the gifts (the ones we give!). We tell ourselves that it is the cookies, the drinks, the food and the gifts that make the holiday special. Try them out all by yourself, and see if you can honestly say that is the case.

The Way Out of Winter Solstice Darkness

And then there is the pressure to be positive, cheery, merry, and bright. But you may have your pain, grief, or worry—your own reality that seems at odds with all the outward festivity. What if melancholy does have you in its grips? Does all this ‘cheer’ make you feel even more alone with your pain? It could, and you don’t need to apologize for that. Let me offer you permission to feel what is real for you.

I don’t mean to suggest that it is best to wallow in sorrow or become some version of Scrooge.  I’m just saying that you need and deserve some compassion—from yourself. And some loving input—from yourself. So, if you’re not feeling the “be-of-good-cheer” vibe, try this: Claim your right to be supported, by you, first and foremost.  Find 10 minutes of peace and calm to sit with pen and paper. Write a list of “wellness” actions you might take on your own behalf. Choose actions that would give you a solid and level foundation from which things will, at least, not get worse. Look for your own paths to healing, and be willing to take steps in those directions. Touch an inner compass, and find the place within you where purpose lives.

Imperceptible Change

The truth is that things don’t stay the same. Even though our sunken sun appears to be the same for several days before and after the solstice, we are still moving towards spring. So if you feel sad and perhaps even a bit hopeless, just know things won’t stay this way forever—especially because you’ve befriended yourself.

Winter solstice marks the beginning of the return of longer and brighter days, though there are many weeks of winter ahead. While we might be feeling the long darkness of night, the days are indeed growing, though we won’t see the difference at first. Yet by December 25th, where Christmas tucked itself into the calendar in place of a Roman winter festival*, daylight hours are indisputably getting longer. Hooray!

Remember, the dying of the sun and the passing of the year also mark a rebirth of the sun, of the cycles of life, and of hope, faith, and love in our hearts. May you nurture your own heart and soul this season.

Sending you my love!

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Snow Fun


*December 25 was adopted as the date for Christmas in Europe in order to superimpose on the pre-existing mid-winter festivals. The Romans held a festival on December 25 of Dies Natalis Solis Invicti, “the birthday of the unconquered sun.”  The Romans also had a week-long winter festival called Saturnalia that included public feasting, dancing, singing and gambling. Houses were decorated with evergreens and bunches of holly were given as tokens of friendship. When this festival was absorbed into the Christian calendar, holly, evergreens, and other symbols were adopted as well.

November 19, 2017 by Sally K Norton

Choices to lessen suffering and open our hearts to joy and Thanksgiving.

My trip to the farmers market today was beautiful. In a magical perfection, bright yellow and orange leaves fluttered everywhere in the swirling wind, contrasting with the strong, steady, black-bark covered limbs arching over streets and sidewalks. Everyone at the market seemed calm and very content to be there. It put me in a mood to slow down, just be, and reflect about the ways we cope, consume, eat.

South of the James Farmers Market

And, I want to suggest to you that, this Thanksgiving, you eat whatever you want.

But, before you do, be sure you really want it. And that you know why. Do we ever know why we do what we do? We say we want to be out of pain, physically, emotionally, and yet… Too often our actions don’t always fit our true wants. Perhaps, we are so busy wanting that we cling to our cravings and beloved symbols of comfort, especially when we get emotionally triggered.  And our desire to be loved is often being the biggest “want” of all.

Emotionally triggered? Do you think it’s possible at this time of year? Honestly:  do you think it’s not possible? A lot of us go into super-charge mode emotionally, putting ourselves on a hair trigger, easily upset by the smallest of things. It works great for retailers who put all kinds of irresistible comforts, stimulants, and distractions right under our noses. It doesn’t usually play out so well at family gatherings, however.

How will you be in this moment, this time we call Thanksgiving? This is the time we say is the opening of the Season of Joy. Can it be so for you? What would make it so? Is it about the sugar-coated, pecan-topped sweet potatoes, really? Foods like these may serve our past habits and past memories. And so, we tell ourselves that they are security, ground, and comfort—and a pleasure we need and deserve.

Clinging to the Past

The old way of doing things provides a railing that we hold on to as we navigate the steps of relationships, change, and uncertainty. But, truly, life is best lived in a state of uncertainty. That is where discovery lies.  That is where novelty, growth, and the best in life reside.  Perhaps, too, clinging to our old choices, habits, and memories is just an escape from uncertainty. So often we don’t dare be fully present, or embrace our new path. Perhaps because we fear feeling sad. Sad is bad enough at any time, but horrible in the Season of Joy.

This is an ideal time to build our confidence in our ability to drop our old ways and choose wisely. As Pema Chödrön, puts it: “Natural intelligence is always accessible to us. When we’re not caught in the trap of hope and fear, we intuitively know what’s the right thing to do. If we’re not obscuring our intelligence with anger, self-pity, or craving, we know what will help and what will make things worse” [for us emotionally].

Let your own capacity to feel appreciation, gratitude, tenderness, and a sense of humor be your core, your warmth, your comfort, your peace, your celebration. This is great time to nurture our inner warmth, first to ourselves and then to everyone around us. Light a small fire inside, let it glow with your life energy. Let it be reason enough for the season. Let it give you peace, let it free up your intelligence and be a fuel for making wiser choices. De-escalate the meaning and value of former favorites, and look forward to trying new things that are good for you.

Happy Thanksgiving!! And, remember, a low-oxalate holiday begins with your mindset.

Sources:

Pema Chödrön (2009) Taking the Leap. Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears. p.5

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